精彩导读: 自信的人是不固执的人。如果他们对某事的想法,它从另一个人的方式思考它不同,他们通常会尝试看看它从该人的角度来看,明白为什么它们是有意义的。 Many people yearn to be more self-confident. Yet they have no idea how to achieve that objective. They look at others who have the gift and say, “Hey that's what I want. I hate feeling unsure of myself. I wish I could stop obsessing about what others think of me and quit worrying about disappointing other people. I want to stop anguishing over my decisions and torturing myself about my mistakes. I think it would be so great to feel self-assured, hold my head up high and stand tall. I've never been self-confident. I wish there were a way I could be.” There is a way. You don't have to be born with self-confidence. Self-confidence can grow and flourish and ripen and blossom until you actually come to feel as though there is a different person inside of you. Here are some insights that might facilitate the quest. Learn what a self-confident person is really like. They are not cocky, know-it-all people who don't care what anybody else thinks. They have their doubts. And make mistakes. And are far from perfect. However, they are willing to acknowledge their inadequacies without dwelling on them. They do this by maintaining a sense of humor, putting problems in perspective, and focusing mainly on what they've done right, not wrong. Though self-confident people do believe in themselves, they don't try to suffocate others with their ideas or beliefs. They are confident in what they know not only because they read, learn and think but also because they respect their instinct, intuition and the unique body of knowledge that they've developed by living life. They realize that one doesn't have to be labeled an “expert” to believe in one's own truths. Self-confident people don't undermine their own worth by comparing themselves with others, only to conclude that they aren't “good enough”. They appreciate their strengths and a [1] [2] [3] 下一页 |